by Julie Reisler
If the thought of New Year’s resolutions gives you heartburn, then know you are not alone. This might just be a cue to reframe how you view resolutions, specifically for the New Year.
It’s easy to put a lot of weight into your hopes and dreams and feel the anticipation and fear that you might go another year not accomplishing what you want to manifest. A fresh perspective might offer a new way to look at the new year, your intentions and goals, and frankly, to look at how to have your best life, regardless if you perfectly fulfill your resolutions.
Here are some thoughts to consider in helping you to ‘redo’ your resolutions. Take part in this mind-shift with a sense of lightness and detachment from past stories and maybe even have fun.
- Get in touch with your purpose and passion. A great place to start is to dig deep and look at what moves you. Get ready to write and let yourself free flow with thoughts. Getting clear about your purpose and passion will help anchor your goals. Some questions to start with: Why are you on this planet? How will this goal you want make an impact in your own life and those around you? How is your resolution connected to your purpose and passion?
It’s crucial to get clarity before action and to focus on the larger perspective. Instead of, “I want to rock it out in that dress for Jill’s wedding next month” which can be initially motivating, it feels more purposeful to get clear that what matters most is being able to move well and be healthy for your children. The more anchored the goal is to your deeper purpose, the more you are committed, willing and ready to make the change.
- Lights, camera, ACTION. Now that you are clear on your purpose, passion and goals, how are you going to make your resolution happen? Who are you going to be accountable to? Maybe you find a friend or peer with whom you can email or call to stay connected around your goal. Create a team to help keep you honest, focused on your goals and accountable for your actions.
- Being SMART with your goals. One of the best coaching techniques around goals is the SMART method, which stands for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely. Take whatever goal you have come up with and put it to the test. Remember, when making life changes, it is known to take the brain at least 90 days to change neuropathways and create new brain patterns (i.e., changing thoughts). Change doesn’t happen overnight, but it does start with each and every little step you take.
- Bless the baby steps. Most lasting and impactful change is about small shifts, grit, commitment and incremental steps forward. What are realistic, small, proactive steps to take? While it might be more fun to have an ‘ah-ha’ moment or finally fit in that little black dress, those bigger moments wouldn’t have happened without each and every small step you took along the way, imperfectly.
When you have setbacks, which is both human and to be assumed, you can look at it as research on yourself and hopefully learn something more about yourself, with compassion. It’s not about being perfect in accomplishing your goal. It’s about declaring what’s important and why, showing up to do the best you can and taking baby steps in any way you can to create the change you want. Just asking the question “what can I learn from this setback experience” shifts the perspective to a teachable moment.
- Celebrate, along the way. If you hadn’t set your goal, you’d be exactly where you were before starting out. If nothing more, you might be learning about what’s really important to you. Start celebrating along the way and take time to honor yourself. You are the only one on the planet who making the time to better yourself, which is definitely something to celebrate.
Julie Reisler, founder of Empowered Living, and certified Health and Life coach and fitness expert, is about having you create and live your most joyous and healthiest life with empowerment and a bunch of fun! Feel free to share your resolutions with Julie or contact her for further coaching and questions at Empowered-Living.net.